"When you like a flower, you just pluck it.
But when you love a flower, you water it daily"
The true meaning of love is beautifully encompassed in the quote above. Love is something that cannot be seized or forced. It is something that can only be defined by experiencing it in your life every day.
By going through life, expressing love for yourself and others, through your words, thoughts, actions, and intentions, you can experience a life filled with love, happiness, and fulfillment.
Crystals are powerful tools that can help prepare you to receive, give and sustain love.
In this post, we'll uncover how crystals for love can help you to attract new love, renew old love, build meaningful relationships, discover self-love and healing, ignite passion in the bedroom, heal heartbreak and more!
Table of Contents
- Why Use Crystals for Love
- Rose Quartz - Ultimate Love Stone
- Best Crystals for Love
- Crystals for Love, Romance and Marriage
- Crystals for Meaningful Relationships
- Crystals for New Love and Renewing Love
- Crystals for Self-Love and Confidence
- Crystals for Heartbreak and Stability
- How to Use Crystals for Love
- Key Takeaways
Why Use Crystals for Love
"Crystals are basically expressions of chemical energy, rather than having energy.
One can say they ARE energy."
- Aza Derman, metaphysical expert
We all know there are no love potions or magical mantras for love, however, there is energy — energy that can be very powerful...and that is exactly what crystals are, nothing but energy.
The natural vibrations of crystals help run everything from watches to computers, and they are great to bring into your own energy field and personal life to bring about a change.
Each crystal radiates a different vibration or frequency. Depending on their unique vibrations, crystal energy can be harnessed for protection, confidence, luck, wealth, happiness, and yes — for love.
Love comes in many shapes and forms. So, whether you're feeling unworthy looking to promote self-love, single looking to attract a long-term partner, married looking to spice things up, a parent looking to build deeper connections with your children, or a friend looking to heal a rift — crystals can help.
Of course, no crystal will land you your ideal date or guarantee to fix a failing relationship, but crystals will undoubtedly help to open up your heart and balance your own energies and serve as a constant reminder of becoming a better human being to give and receive love.
For example, wearing a rose quartz mala may not attract your secret crush to fall head over heels over you, but its soft, gentle energy can make you more receptive, and positively impact the way you interact with others, which can, in turn, help you receive and attract love.
Ready to uncover the best crystals for love, relationships, marriage, healing heartbreak and more?
Rose Quartz - Ultimate Love Stone
"You have to love yourself first, before you can attract love to you"
If there ever was a stone for universal love - this is it! Rose quartz is a gentle, soothing stone that invites love into your life. It is one of the best "all purpose" stones that can be used for being more receptive to giving and receiving love.
Actually called the "Heart Stone," if you're looking to attract love in various areas of your life, this is the stone for you. Rose quartz gently opens up your heart and activates the heart chakra, promoting self-love that can radiate outward and help to attract meaningful, loving relationships.
This multi-purpose rose quartz healing kit comes with endless possibilities!
The beauty of this kit is its versatility, and it has been curated in a way that you can use any one or combinations of the pieces for meditation, reiki sessions, crystal gridding, chakra healing, prayer, and much much more!
What's included in the kit:
- ♥ Orgonite Pyramid (Rose Quartz, Amethyst, Clear Quartz)
- ♥ Tumbled Rose Quartz Crystal
- ♥ Raw Rose Quartz Chunks (x3)
- ♥ Rose Quartz Obelisk
- ♥ Selenite Charging Plate
How Rose Quartz Works
It's soothing and calming energy penetrates the heart chakra promoting empathy, compassion, kindness, and forgiveness which lowers stress built-up in the chakra, clearing out negative emotions such as anger, hate, jealousy, bitterness and more. So, for example, the next time someone bumps into you accidentally, you may act with a lot less irritability than before, if you've been wearing, working with or carrying rose quartz.
Rose quartz can be used to navigate the complexities of different kinds of love, whether it be to increase your self-worth, heal a family rift, rise out of a broken relationship, let go of emotional baggage, mend old wounds or forgive and accept.
How to Use Rose Quartz
One of the best ways to use rose quartz is actually to lay it over your heart. This can help to heal any issues going on in your heart such as feelings of hurt, grief, sadness, and despair. The stone actually helps to bring these issues to the surface — so as you feel, you can heal.
You can also wear rose quartz as a necklace over your heart, or as a bracelet, touching your skin. Rose quartz can also be kept by your bedside table to bring calming vibrations of love and peace. If you're in a romantic relationship, it is also recommended to keep not one but two pieces of rose quartz in the room.
Cleanse your rose quartz by keeping it out in the light of a full moon or by smudging with sage or Palo Santo, and then programming and recharging it with the type of self-nurturing and loving energy you want to attract.
We recommend our premium California White Sage Smudge Sticks or our natural Palo Santo Incense Sticks (20-pack) to ward off bad energy, lull you into a deeper state of mediation, and fill your home with love!
Best Crystals for Love
Although rose quartz is great for opening up the heart chakra for love, there are many other stones that offer targeted healing for certain love and relationship issues you might be dealing with.
Next, we'll take a look at the best crystals for love for building trust, passion, attracting new love, healing a broken heart and more.
Crystals for Love, Romance and Marriage
Want things to heat up in the bedroom? Garnet is your go-to stone to ignite passion and attraction. It's great to use if you want to spice things up in your current relationship. Wearing garnet or carrying it in your pocket will help to make you feel more desirable, and this energy can emanate from you — getting you noticed.
An excellent stone to promote intimacy, garnet can increase sex drive and stimulate passion and romance. Its uplifting properties are great for fighting depression, so if you're feeling low or bored in your current relationship, garnet can help to reignite that spark.
A stone of good fortune, emerald is an excellent stone for married couples, no matter how many years they've been married. Emerald promotes romantic love and loyalty, both essential elements in a long-term successful relationship.
It's balancing energies help to keep a relationship stable and it encourages both partners to be forgiving, accept responsibility, apologize when necessary and love unconditionally. Along with finding balance with others, emerald also helps one to recognize what true happiness means to themselves.
Known as the stone of nobility and courage, you'll often see rubies being adorned by royalty. A stone of confidence, power, devotion, and integrity, ruby is an excellent stone to wear when you want to build a strong foundation for your current relationship.
Ruby is also associated with romantic love, passion, and stamina. In fact, ruby is a stone of the root chakra and promotes sensual energy and desire. It can help to intensify and deepen the relationship between you and your partner and is also regarded as a wedding stone in some cultures.
Want to continue to retain a bond with that special someone? Amazonite can help. A stone of the throat and heart chakra, amazonite will help you communicate openly and clearly, in a safe and loving space, allowing both partners to freely voice out their thoughts, and release emotional baggage that can come in the way of a relationship moving forward.
Wearing amazonite or adding it to your space will help to balance out conflicting emotional energy and aid in expression and communication, even over delicate matters. If you're looking to repair an existing relationship, amazonite can help you and partner see both sides to the story, alleviating fear and judgment, while maintaining love and respect.
Crystals for Meaningful Relationships
5. Lapis Lazuli
A stone of communication, lapis lazuli is a stone used for centuries by civilizations all over the world and was, in fact, a stone used to honor the Roman Goddess of love, Venus, for over five thousand years. Lapis lazuli is an excellent stone to wear to enhance and fortify your relationships.
Lapis can help in confident communication, active listening, and rouse empathy at the same time, which is important to strengthen and maintain any meaningful relationship. It brings positivity and loyalty, and builds commitment in all kinds of relationships, romantic or platonic.
If you want to build a relationship on a foundation of collaboration and acceptance, then turquoise is the stone for you. Turquoise encourages you to stay calm and composed when things get heated, so you can focus on solving the problem and even reach a compromise when required.
It helps you to voice out your thoughts clearly, while also respecting the other person's opinion, encouraging openness and acceptance, which is important in any relationship to stand the test of time.
Each person has both male and female energy. Moonstone, a stone of fertility, exudes a protective feminine energy, that helps to balance emotions, and keeps you calm under over-whelming situations, which helps to maintain stable relationships.
Moonstone can also help you come to terms with emotional patterns, so you can identify them and make amendments to support your relationship. It is also known to exude a warm and loving vibration and opens up the heart to acceptance.
It keeps your emotions in check so you don't over-react when you don't need to, and enables you to stay calm in stressful situations, helping to support a healthy relationship.
8. Yellow Jasper
Yellow Jasper is all about collaborating and coming together. It teaches us the importance of honesty and gives us the courage needed to make changes and transform our thinking to solve problems together, enabling us to strengthen and heal relationships.
When relationships can get over-complicated and confusing, yellow jasper is great for finding clarity and helping you understand your own emotions and feelings. Wearing yellow jasper can teach you to make sense of things, enabling you to make better decisions around the relationships in your life.
Crystals for New Love and Renewing Love
9. Green Jade
Trying to rebuild trust in your current relationship? Jade is an excellent love crystal to reignite love in a relationship or attract new love. When the fire in a relationship has gone down, and the connection seems to have become old and non-existent, jade, one of the most popular stones in Asian culture, is an excellent stone to use.
Jade carries the vibrations of new love and can bring this energy to renew an old relationship to make it new again. Place jade carvings in your surroundings and wear jade jewelry to bring luck, help promote trust, and strengthen love in a relationship.
A stone of divine love, this peachy pink stone helps to activate and cleanse the heart chakra. A high vibrational love stone, Morganite helps connect you to the realm of universal love and lightens any emotional load burdening your heart.
It helps attract new love and abundance and supports you in your journey to maintain a healthy relationship with your partner. Morganite also empowers you to be more receptive, which can translate into dealing with difficult situations with more love and empathy. Wear morganite to feel peace, unconditional universal love, invite new love, or rekindle and renew old love.
You may be wondering how hematite got on the crystals for love list, as it is a root chakra stone, and does not really exude a warm and loving vibration like most love stones do. Well, that's exactly why it's on this list — love, and dating is anything but easy, in fact, it can get out-and-out tiring.
If you're putting yourself out there ready to find new love, you'll need a stone that will give you strength, resiliency, security, and courage. That's exactly what hematite does. Wearing hematite will give you the extra push and strength you need to maintain your sense of stability when you're ready to start looking for new love.
12. Green Aventurine
If you want to attract new love into your life, this stone of luck will give you the boost of confidence you need to get out there and go after what you want in life.
Also known as the ultimate stone of abundance, you can harness the abundant energy of green aventurine to bring success, wealth and abundance in every area of your life, including love and romance. A heart chakra stone, green aventurine will help you endure the ups and downs of a new relationship, and will be at your side to help strengthen it to maturity.
Crystals for Self-Love and Confidence
Just as this stone has multiple layers of pink and white, it allows you to go to different layers within yourself. It helps to penetrate each of your layers in a soft and gentle way and shows you that although nothing is perfect and we all have issues to deal with, we all deserve love and happiness and that the only way to attract love is to first appreciate and love yourself.
A stone of the heart chakra, wear or carry rhodochrosite to help to surface repressed feelings and emotions, allowing yourself to recognize and release this energy, aiding in self-healing and bringing back self-confidence. As a love stone, rhodochrosite works for relationships of all kinds — romance, marriage, family, friends and more.
Are you always putting yourself down? If you're a constant negative self-talker and can't seem to overcome your self-doubt, especially when it comes to deserving true love, wearing a kunzite pendant or carrying it on you, can help to open up your heart chakra and change your own perspective about yourself.
Kunzite can help lift feelings of inferiority and bring calm, gently empowering you to find compassion, harmony and inner peace in your life, to see yourself in a new light, which will help you to attract and find true love.
The ultimate stone of success and confidence, citrine does not immediately identify as a love crystal, but its high vibrational positive energy empowers you with the self-confidence and compassion you need to get a deeper appreciation of yourself and accept yourself to feel worthy of love.
Wear citrine as jewelry (check out this beautiful citrine pendant here), or carry it on you to promote self-esteem, bring joy and increase your self-worth. Once you learn to love and truly appreciate yourself, you'll be able to open yourself up to receive love.
Are you feeling disconnected from everything around you? One of the main obstacles to self-worth and acceptance is not knowing which path you're on.
If you're feeling unsure about yourself, and are lacking vision, amethyst can help bring much-needed clarity in your life. Place a piece of amethyst on the third eye, between the eyebrows or simply hold it in your hand or meditate with it with the intent to find your purpose and seek clarity.
Wearing amethyst will help to activate the heart, and calm the mind. More clarity will bring with it self-healing and contentment, which will, in turn, allow you to feel self-love and accept yourself for who you are.
Crystals for Heartbreak and Stability
Sometimes all you need is the right kind of energy to swirl in and help to clear away upsetting memories so you can love again. Malachite, is a beautiful green stone, that helps to steer away heartache and balance your heart chakra.
Wear malachite over your heart as a pendant or sleep with the stone under your pillow to feel secure, safe and have the stability you need to get yourself together, move on, and recharge yourself to love again.
Called the stone of forgiveness, the pink and black layers of this stone serve as a constant reminder that love does not come without pain and heartache. Rhodonite helps to gently usher away pain from a hurtful relationship, by bringing in loving, forgiving energies, and gently cleansing out feelings of anger, pain, hurt and resentment.
An excellent emotional balancer, rhodonite reminds us to not focus on the feelings of loneliness we may feel when we lack a loving, romantic relationship, as this actually works against us, as we're focusing on what we don't want. Instead, it brings a nurturing energy, helping to regain lost confidence, inspiring us to find new romance.
19. Blue Lace Agate
Do you struggle with opening up in a relationship? Perhaps you have trust issues or have been burned badly in the past. Whatever the case, this nervous energy can make it very daunting for you to get into a trusting, long-term relationship.
Blue lace agate is an incredibly calming stone and can help you find peace in the chaos. A communication stone, its soothing vibrations empower you to communicate your feelings to your partner and reduce the fear of rejection. Wear blue lace agate to uplift your communication abilities and combat any negative energy that works against you.
20. Mangano Calcite
A beautiful light pink stone with a gentle, healing vibration, mangano calcite's biggest strength is to teach us how to love. At times when you've had challenging or hurtful past relationships, it can get difficult to love again.
At times you may have felt like you've never experienced true love, or don't know how to love. Mangano calcite shows us how to love and also teaches us how to value and appreciate others. By diverting our focus on the aspects of a relationship we find important, it helps us to let go of old ways of thinking and encourages new ways of attracting and maintaining a healthy relationship.
How to Use Crystals for Love
Before you can start to use crystals for love, you need to decide on the type of crystal you want to use, cleanse it, and program it with an intention. Follow the steps below to start using your love crystals:
Pick a love crystal
Depending on what you are trying to achieve, pick a love crystal that resonates with that energy. If you're trying to heal a past relationship you may pick rhodonite, or if you want to muster up self-confidence for an upcoming date, citrine will work.
You'll also have to decide whether you'll be placing the crystal in your bedroom, carrying it on you or wearing it as jewelry. Once you've picked out the type of love crystal you want to use, you'll need to cleanse it.
Prepare your crystal
For your crystals to vibrate with healing energies that they can then impart to you, they first need to cleansed.
You can cleanse your love crystals by burning sage, letting them sit under full moonlight, or burying them in the earth. This will release any built-up negative energies so they can be recharged and ready to use for healing.
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Program your crystal for love
Any crystal needs to be given a purpose. After cleansing, the next step is programming your crystal for love with the "purpose" or intention you have in mind.
You can do this by simply holding the crystal in your hand and feel in tune with its energy. Now think out loud (or say out loud) your intention for the stone.
So, to program crystals for love you can say: I program this crystal to vibrate with loving, soothing energies. May it remind me to feel love and spread love to all things around me.
- All crystals are energy. Love crystals vibrate with universal love energy which can be harnessed to give and receive love
- No love crystal will miraculously land you your dream date, but it can help make you more receptive to attracting the right relationships in your life
- Rose quartz is the ultimate love crystal and stone of universal love. Use it to love fully and unconditionally
- There are specific crystals for love, romance, and marriage that help to maintain long-term relationships and keep the passion alive
- There are also crystals for love that help to build meaningful relationships that can be romantic as well as platonic
- If you're trying to attract new love, or want to reignite old love, there are crystals that will give you the support and self-confidence you need to get yourself out there and open up your heart to love
- Certain love crystals can also help to heal from troubled past relationships and get over heartbreak, empowering you to love again
- To use your crystals for love, it's important to pick a crystal that resonates with you, cleanse it and program it with an intention